Comments on: Things Not to Say to Your Post-Partum Partner http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/ Crunchy Freaks R Us Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:52:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3 By: Doctorlizardo http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7724 Doctorlizardo Tue, 04 Dec 2007 18:11:30 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7724 My husband said a nicer version of #4: "I’d like to quit my job and stay home ...[snip]... That sounds great"... --but the important part is, he actually followed through, and now he stays home with our (singleton) son while I complete my required one-year internship! [insert sheepishness] (Yes, I'm aware that I'm bragging.) My husband now really understands about 1) sleep, and 2) showers. My husband said a nicer version of #4: “I’d like to quit my job and stay home …[snip]… That sounds great”…

–but the important part is, he actually followed through, and now he stays home with our (singleton) son while I complete my required one-year internship!

[insert sheepishness] (Yes, I’m aware that I’m bragging.)

My husband now really understands about 1) sleep, and 2) showers.

]]> By: Swistle http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7719 Swistle Tue, 04 Dec 2007 07:28:47 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7719 "Can you get me some smaller jeans? I've lost 25 pounds." "I just want some time TO MYSELF!" "I just want to GO TO SLEEP." "I think you should wait until after dinner to have cookies." “Can you get me some smaller jeans? I’ve lost 25 pounds.”

“I just want some time TO MYSELF!”

“I just want to GO TO SLEEP.”

“I think you should wait until after dinner to have cookies.”

]]> By: jano http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7694 jano Sun, 02 Dec 2007 23:08:05 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7694 Heh. When the babies were little (up to 6 months) they slept in our room. Apart from about 9.30 pm when I pumped and went to bed (my husband did the midnight/1am feed with bottles), I was awake all the time it seemed - either feeding, or settling, or trying to sleep through my husband feeding and settling, or lying awake thinking "they'll be awake again in an hour and it will be worse to wake up". After one of these nights my husband woke, stretched luxuriously, and said, "Wow! They slept through!" I threw a baby at him and said, "No, YOU slept through, and that is NOT A GOOD THING TO SAY TO ME RIGHT NOW". He is the best and most supportive of husbands, so perhaps I was being a tiny bit unfair but ... man, that made the exhausted and stressed-out me mad. Heh. When the babies were little (up to 6 months) they slept in our room. Apart from about 9.30 pm when I pumped and went to bed (my husband did the midnight/1am feed with bottles), I was awake all the time it seemed - either feeding, or settling, or trying to sleep through my husband feeding and settling, or lying awake thinking “they’ll be awake again in an hour and it will be worse to wake up”.

After one of these nights my husband woke, stretched luxuriously, and said, “Wow! They slept through!” I threw a baby at him and said, “No, YOU slept through, and that is NOT A GOOD THING TO SAY TO ME RIGHT NOW”.

He is the best and most supportive of husbands, so perhaps I was being a tiny bit unfair but … man, that made the exhausted and stressed-out me mad.

]]> By: KaleidoscopeEyes http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7688 KaleidoscopeEyes Sun, 02 Dec 2007 05:56:38 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7688 Haha yes, my husband who slept in the guest bedroom and did not have to wake ONCE in the night after the babies turned two weeks old (because he had to go to work and needed his rest)...this went on for quite a while...a month or so, and he kept telling me how tired he was. WHAT?!?!!!!!!!!!!!?!? I told him never to tell me that again. He didn't understand, and said it didn't have to be a competition, but for me to hear that after I woke with the twins all night every night while he snored away...well, I stand by my comment, he should never tell me that again. Haha yes, my husband who slept in the guest bedroom and did not have to wake ONCE in the night after the babies turned two weeks old (because he had to go to work and needed his rest)…this went on for quite a while…a month or so, and he kept telling me how tired he was.

WHAT?!?!!!!!!!!!!!?!?

I told him never to tell me that again.

He didn’t understand, and said it didn’t have to be a competition, but for me to hear that after I woke with the twins all night every night while he snored away…well, I stand by my comment, he should never tell me that again.

]]> By: kate http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7655 kate Fri, 30 Nov 2007 16:48:00 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7655 "Why don't you just feed them formula so that you can get something DONE around here?" “Why don’t you just feed them formula so that you can get something DONE around here?”

]]> By: Lindsay http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7618 Lindsay Thu, 29 Nov 2007 16:49:38 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7618 OUCH! Wow. Things to look forward to... OUCH! Wow. Things to look forward to…

]]> By: Casey http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7614 Casey Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:20:22 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7614 After a night of very little sleep because of cranky baby and constant nursing and a husband who is a log, dead to the world: "Man, am I TIRED." I ended up telling Josh that even if he was exhausted I could not hear another word about his fatigue without wanting to rip his nose off. After a night of very little sleep because of cranky baby and constant nursing and a husband who is a log, dead to the world:

“Man, am I TIRED.”

I ended up telling Josh that even if he was exhausted I could not hear another word about his fatigue without wanting to rip his nose off.

]]> By: Alice http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7613 Alice Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:02:16 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7613 "This pregnancy was really hard on me." Yes, he took care of me and switched out my IV bags while I had hyperemesis, but I HAD THE HYPEREMESIS. I had every nasty test known to femalekind to determine his sperm sucked, injected myself with crazy hormones, had my eggs sucked out, fertilized and reintroduced, and then carried twins. I had a vaginal and a c-section on the same frigging day, and had to do most of the work the first week because he threw his back out the day after they were born. Talk about timing. I appreciate that it was hard on him,really I do, but I selfishly find it hard to care. I want to want to care, if that makes sense. :? “This pregnancy was really hard on me.”

Yes, he took care of me and switched out my IV bags while I had hyperemesis, but I HAD THE HYPEREMESIS. I had every nasty test known to femalekind to determine his sperm sucked, injected myself with crazy hormones, had my eggs sucked out, fertilized and reintroduced, and then carried twins. I had a vaginal and a c-section on the same frigging day, and had to do most of the work the first week because he threw his back out the day after they were born. Talk about timing. I appreciate that it was hard on him,really I do, but I selfishly find it hard to care. I want to want to care, if that makes sense. :?

]]> By: Michele http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7609 Michele Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:49:35 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7609 Michael is usually very good about this stuff. Especially since he was unemployed for 6 months last year & got first hand experience on what it is like. HOWEVER.... we're staying with friends over Thanksgiving & he "kindly" offers to babysit D so I can go out with my friend. *Boggle* I just looked at him & said "You can't babysit your own child". He kept insisting that yes you could (while smoke is starting to come out my ears). "No, you cannot (idiothole). It is called BEING A PARENT". And I stalked away. Michael is usually very good about this stuff. Especially since he was unemployed for 6 months last year & got first hand experience on what it is like. HOWEVER…. we’re staying with friends over Thanksgiving & he “kindly” offers to babysit D so I can go out with my friend. *Boggle* I just looked at him & said “You can’t babysit your own child”. He kept insisting that yes you could (while smoke is starting to come out my ears). “No, you cannot (idiothole). It is called BEING A PARENT”. And I stalked away.

]]> By: Babyamore (Trish) http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7602 Babyamore (Trish) Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:26:24 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2007/11/27/things-not-to-say-to-your-post-partum-partner/#comment-7602 my husband has said no 4. but not so bluntly ... I know he thinks it but rather I sit on computer hehe I do ! my husband has said no 4. but not so bluntly … I know he thinks it but rather I sit on computer hehe I do !

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