Comments on: When Do I Become “That Woman?” http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/ Crunchy Freaks R Us Mon, 06 Oct 2008 19:10:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3 By: Jeanne http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9714 Jeanne Fri, 16 May 2008 15:22:23 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9714 I love the acrobatic wolverines. that's what I have too. From day one. How could such a tiny baby be so ferocious? and now, forget it! The girls are almost a year now. I have no indications that they are going to want to quit anytime soon. They still laugh at sippy cups. how on earth will they get any liquid into their bodies? besides, I think they secretly enjoy attacking me. I love the acrobatic wolverines. that’s what I have too. From day one. How could such a tiny baby be so ferocious? and now, forget it! The girls are almost a year now. I have no indications that they are going to want to quit anytime soon. They still laugh at sippy cups. how on earth will they get any liquid into their bodies? besides, I think they secretly enjoy attacking me.

]]> By: Ashley http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9708 Ashley Thu, 15 May 2008 04:48:18 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9708 haha acrobatic wolverine! I couldn't have said it better myself! My goal was 2 yrs old and in 8 wks I highly doubt Sarah is going to wean herself. I guess I'll move into freakdom with you but really maybe we are the normal ones! I will say bf'ing a crazy, on the go, almost two year old is not my idea of a walk in the park. Yes the bonding time is great but really what do you think being attacked by an acrobatic wolverine feels like? Stacie I am soo proud of you for giving James and Fiona such a great start. I don't know if I could have nursed two at once. You are like my bf'ing hero! haha acrobatic wolverine! I couldn’t have said it better myself! My goal was 2 yrs old and in 8 wks I highly doubt Sarah is going to wean herself. I guess I’ll move into freakdom with you but really maybe we are the normal ones! I will say bf’ing a crazy, on the go, almost two year old is not my idea of a walk in the park. Yes the bonding time is great but really what do you think being attacked by an acrobatic wolverine feels like? Stacie I am soo proud of you for giving James and Fiona such a great start. I don’t know if I could have nursed two at once. You are like my bf’ing hero!

]]> By: Kori http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9705 Kori Wed, 14 May 2008 15:21:32 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9705 I think about this often because my two are going on 20 months soon and show no signs of wanting to stop. I thought-prekids- that I'd probably do it until they were 6 months old and then wean. But now I can see how much they benefit. Not the least of which is getting them to breastfeed is so much easier when they are sick then getting them to eat or drink water. They get over things faster and don't get as sick as some of their friends do. I truly think that the breastfeeding helps with all that. I totally agree with your "acrobatic wolverine" comment. It is definitely NOT for the benefit of the mom at this stage. They use nursing for comfort, for milk and when they can't keep anything else down. The only benefit to me at this point is that I have that "weapon" in my arsenal still. They still ask for it and seem to need it so I'm not going to take it away. No matter how many "weird" looks I get. However, I have stopped feeding them in public. I'm just not that brave I guess. But! If I saw someone breastfeeding a toddler in public I would be very proud and more than a little in awe of them. I think about this often because my two are going on 20 months soon and show no signs of wanting to stop. I thought-prekids- that I’d probably do it until they were 6 months old and then wean. But now I can see how much they benefit. Not the least of which is getting them to breastfeed is so much easier when they are sick then getting them to eat or drink water. They get over things faster and don’t get as sick as some of their friends do. I truly think that the breastfeeding helps with all that.

I totally agree with your “acrobatic wolverine” comment. It is definitely NOT for the benefit of the mom at this stage. They use nursing for comfort, for milk and when they can’t keep anything else down. The only benefit to me at this point is that I have that “weapon” in my arsenal still. They still ask for it and seem to need it so I’m not going to take it away. No matter how many “weird” looks I get. However, I have stopped feeding them in public. I’m just not that brave I guess. But! If I saw someone breastfeeding a toddler in public I would be very proud and more than a little in awe of them.

]]> By: Michelle http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9704 Michelle Wed, 14 May 2008 14:05:30 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9704 Let your freak flag fly! I guess I will induce squirms when I tell people that I nursed my DS until he was 33 months old. He weaned when he was ready, and by waiting until he was ready, it was an easy and painless process (and by painless, I mean that there were no tears or tantrums). By that age, he only nursed at naptime and bedtime. We went on vacation, and he was so busy all day long, that by bedtime he just collapsed. He was asleep before he could even ask to nurse. Once we were home, he never asked again. Let your freak flag fly!

I guess I will induce squirms when I tell people that I nursed my DS until he was 33 months old. He weaned when he was ready, and by waiting until he was ready, it was an easy and painless process (and by painless, I mean that there were no tears or tantrums).

By that age, he only nursed at naptime and bedtime. We went on vacation, and he was so busy all day long, that by bedtime he just collapsed. He was asleep before he could even ask to nurse. Once we were home, he never asked again.

]]> By: Stacie http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9696 Stacie Tue, 13 May 2008 00:58:55 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9696 Poker - I don't know. I have to tell you that nursing kids this old isn't really about the warm snugglies, at least not here. It's more like being attacked by demanding, acrobatic wolverines. I can't imagine wanting to push the issue and coax a child to keep breastfeeding to meet some need of my own. , One great benefit of "extended" breastfeeding showed up when the stomach bug went through our house and breastmilk was all J could keep down for several days. And, of course, I am much too lazy to wean. If I do nothing it will happen eventually with no effort on my part. Poker - I don’t know. I have to tell you that nursing kids this old isn’t really about the warm snugglies, at least not here. It’s more like being attacked by demanding, acrobatic wolverines. I can’t imagine wanting to push the issue and coax a child to keep breastfeeding to meet some need of my own. ,

One great benefit of “extended” breastfeeding showed up when the stomach bug went through our house and breastmilk was all J could keep down for several days.

And, of course, I am much too lazy to wean. If I do nothing it will happen eventually with no effort on my part.

]]> By: Emilin http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9695 Emilin Mon, 12 May 2008 19:42:20 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9695 I'm That Woman, even though only one of my breasts is being used at a time. At 27 months, Sanna has no interest in weaning, and she would be distraught if I refused to let her nurse. It's not about my "issues;" it's about Sanna deciding what's best for Sanna. I’m That Woman, even though only one of my breasts is being used at a time. At 27 months, Sanna has no interest in weaning, and she would be distraught if I refused to let her nurse. It’s not about my “issues;” it’s about Sanna deciding what’s best for Sanna.

]]> By: Meleah http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9694 Meleah Mon, 12 May 2008 16:56:38 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9694 I ask myself this same question often. I want you to know that you, Eva, and Trish are my idols. We are still going strong at 15 months and have no intention of weaning anytime soon. I have just found myself recently feeling a bit defensive when people inquire about our nursing. No one has said anything negative to my face (yet) but I can feel we are on the precipice of questioners minding their own business and overt judgements. I ask myself this same question often. I want you to know that you, Eva, and Trish are my idols. We are still going strong at 15 months and have no intention of weaning anytime soon. I have just found myself recently feeling a bit defensive when people inquire about our nursing. No one has said anything negative to my face (yet) but I can feel we are on the precipice of questioners minding their own business and overt judgements.

]]> By: Babyamore (Trish) http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9693 Babyamore (Trish) Mon, 12 May 2008 13:29:26 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9693 OMG - no judgments here either , as I am with you too. Mine are two in 6 weeks -eeeks .I can't see them stopping soon. So freaks unite. I don't judge who let their kids a have a bottle at 3 either. I think it comes down to personal choice - even at nearly two they can't understand why they can't have it ... at inappropriate times (being fitted for new glasses) and they scream ... I feel guilty anyway ...last time I did nurse him there while we waited. I don't feel a freak and thankfully a few mothers at our normal playgroup still breastfeed beyond one. <a href="http://mylittledrummerboys.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">My Little Drummer boys</a> OMG - no judgments here either , as I am with you too. Mine are two in 6 weeks -eeeks .I can’t see them stopping soon.
So freaks unite. I don’t judge who let their kids a have a bottle at 3 either.
I think it comes down to personal choice - even at nearly two they can’t understand why they can’t have it … at inappropriate times (being fitted for new glasses) and they scream …

I feel guilty anyway …last time I did nurse him there while we waited.
I don’t feel a freak and thankfully a few mothers at our normal playgroup still breastfeed beyond one.

My Little Drummer boys

]]> By: Hilary http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9692 Hilary Mon, 12 May 2008 06:16:56 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9692 Happy Mother's Day! (Well, it was earlier today. I have been up studying.) People are SO quick to judge parents, and it isn't always for choosing not to breastfeed - sometimes it is for choosing to breastfeed, and for how long. I was shamed into a corner for breastfeeding my barely one year old son at a baby shower, of all places. I mentioned something about the WHO recommendations and went to a corner of the room. They were also joking sarcastically about water births, and this was when I was training at the birth center, and I had tried to have a water birth with Zach. I am not saying natural types are never judgmental, but no group has a monopoly on being rude. But, to tell you the truth, I was judging the women there. The two pregnant women, sisters, both said that they would never breastfeed more than three months, and looked at me in disgust. I thought that was way to early to wean, and I disagreed with them. There were women there talking about cesarean section and how easy it was. I didn't think they were freaks, I just disagreed with them. I don't mind being a freak, sometimes, depending on who the normal people are. Happy Mother’s Day! (Well, it was earlier today. I have been up studying.)

People are SO quick to judge parents, and it isn’t always for choosing not to breastfeed - sometimes it is for choosing to breastfeed, and for how long. I was shamed into a corner for breastfeeding my barely one year old son at a baby shower, of all places. I mentioned something about the WHO recommendations and went to a corner of the room. They were also joking sarcastically about water births, and this was when I was training at the birth center, and I had tried to have a water birth with Zach. I am not saying natural types are never judgmental, but no group has a monopoly on being rude.

But, to tell you the truth, I was judging the women there. The two pregnant women, sisters, both said that they would never breastfeed more than three months, and looked at me in disgust. I thought that was way to early to wean, and I disagreed with them. There were women there talking about cesarean section and how easy it was.

I didn’t think they were freaks, I just disagreed with them. I don’t mind being a freak, sometimes, depending on who the normal people are.

]]> By: Jenn http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9691 Jenn Mon, 12 May 2008 03:37:23 +0000 http://twinkies.bastetweb.com/2008/05/10/when-do-i-become-that-woman/#comment-9691 I used to think beyond one was weird, beyond two way weird. Then i had one year olds. And then almost two year olds. They totally lost interest around 10 months. At 12 months I stopped offering and they never asked to nurse again. While I'm glad I have my body back, I miss it. And I could totally see nursing them now. I don't know where the line is. I've been made to feel like a freak for nursing twins period much less for a year or more. I used to think beyond one was weird, beyond two way weird. Then i had one year olds. And then almost two year olds. They totally lost interest around 10 months. At 12 months I stopped offering and they never asked to nurse again. While I’m glad I have my body back, I miss it. And I could totally see nursing them now. I don’t know where the line is. I’ve been made to feel like a freak for nursing twins period much less for a year or more.

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